You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say will be misquoted, then used against you. -Anon
We’ve all had it happen: A friend walks up to you or calls you and tells you a juicy piece of information that sends your head spinning. You immediately think of a person you would like to share the information with and then, your friend’s final words come to you, “Oh, and please don’t say anything to anybody. I don’t know if I was supposed to tell anyone or not.”
Ah yes, we’ve all found ourselves in the gossip-mill before. It’s funny, or maybe it’s not so funny, that when we hear a piece of gossip we have a tremendous urge to tell someone, even if it’s just one person. -an excerpt from Christians and Gossip
I’ve been struggling with this issue a lot lately. It seems as though I’ll go days, or even weeks, without having to bite my tongue, and then low and behold….. I get a phone call or see a startling status online. And what does my mouth do? It’s as if being a member of the human race has wired us to automatically want to indulge in sharing it with someone. (Which is just as bad as sharing it with everyone.) That darned devil really knows how to get to us as women.
So how in the world to we go about avoiding tempestuously spreading gossip? I couldn’t come up with a straight answer on my own, so I went straight to where it all begins… the middle school hallways. This is what my (very headstrong) little sisters had to say.
1. At the first sign that someone is going to start gossiping about someone else, make a comment about how much you like the other person or praise them. It will quickly make the perpetrator feel awkward and they’ll most likely think twice about bad mouthing the third party.
2. Avoid places or people known for gossip. If put in a situation where gossip will likely occur (which, let’s face it, can be pretty often) be prepared to start your own conversation.
3. Be blunt and start telling people you don’t like gossip. This could probably offend some of your friends, but you shouldn’t surround yourself with those types of people anyhow.
4. (My favorite) If the gossipping doesn’t stop, respond with things like: Really, how cool? (sarcastically) Is that really true? Let’s go ask so and so… or Don’t know them, don’t care.
5. And lastly, if you believe in God and prayer, ask for guidance.
I am most definitely not perfect and although I don’t feel as though I allow myself to indulge in this sin, it is something that I think every lady needs to keep in check in becoming women of God and women-of-all-trades.